Divorce is a big business now. According to recent surveys, most marriages end up in divorce. Therefore, most children grow up in broken homes. What a sad testament for an "enlightened" society! So much for secularism and liberalism; it only tears down homes and leaves children without a parent (sometimes both). Western society is obsessed with divorce. It is the direct result of human laziness. Thanks to feminism and other liberal movements in the West, couples don't see the point in "sticking with it." I mean, why should a guy remain in a relationship whenever he is only needed to supply sperm? Feminist are arguing that men are needed at all, let alone in the raising of children. And now, with the rise of homosexuality, marriage and commitment isn't necessary about children, but satisfying the self.
This is the problem with homosexuality: the motive. Many homosexual men crave sex without commitment, and therefore, date someone of the same gender with the same mindset. This is why many homosexual men have so many partners. It's about satisfying the self, not meeting the needs of their partner. Women are no different. Though homosexual men crave sex without commitment, lesbians crave affection and a companion with less sex. Again, it isn't about meeting the needs of one's partner, but having your own needs being met.
But don't assume this is only the case with homosexuals. Heterosexuals are no different. A thriving, healthy marriage isn't about whether or not your partner is meeting your needs, but rather, are you meeting theirs. Perhaps this is why marriage is so hard. A good marriage means giving up everything for the sake of the other. Our culture has lost this mindset. No wonder the divorce rate is so high.
Nowadays, getting a divorce is as easy as shopping on ebay. Anyone can do in just a few minutes. Some treat divorce as part of the process of finding that special someone, completely neglecting the covenant they made before God in the marriage they are leaving.
Divorce has never been healthy and beneficial for anyone, and yet our society acts like it is a wise option. Tell that to the children who don't know their father. Tell that to the teenagers who don't have a male influence in their life, while their single mom, working two jobs to make ends meet are having a hard time raising their children on their own.
So much for the sexual utopia movement! Broken relationships never mend anything, they only tear things apart. I should know, I'm a youth pastor. I can't tell you how many teenagers and children I meet and minister too who simply need a man in their lives. I don't know how many I meet that hate going home because their parents can look at each other without starting an argument.
I often wonder what this broken home generation will be like whenever they have kids.
In fact, I think I already know. Like Europe, America will likely follow in the trend of increasingly not getting married and not having children. The average European couple might have one child, and they might be married. And that's a big might! But why should they? Everything they saw in their parents own raising of children and struggling (oftentimes failed) marriage is something they don't want to experience. So why bother?
Well, here is more evidence of our on-demand-divorce-society. First, the West has introduced it's first Divorce Fair. I remember whenever I was engaged how my future wife dragged me to a wedding fair. For one, it was held in Rupp Arena, the home of the Kentucky Wildcat basketball team, and I am no fan of the Wildcats, I'm a Louisville Cardinal fan. Secondly, it was the Protestant equivalent of purgatory. I guess I had to go through it just earn treasures in heaven. :o)
My wife and mother had a blast, while I spent the entire time trying to keep the workers at the dancing booths from getting me to let them show me how to ball dance!
But instead of just wedding fairs, Austria is offering the world's first Divorce Fair. And no wonder. Divorce is a big business now. There, couples who see the end in sight, will have access to lawyers, detectives to catch their spouse cheating on them, divorce counselors (you know, to tell you that it wasn't your fault), and even people willing to test the DNA of your children to see who the father is.
Have we really sunk this far? Grant it, it is only happening in Austria, but don't be so naive and assume that it won't happen here. We are no different whenever it comes to undermining the original intent of marriage. We care more about our careers, than about Saturday morning cartoons with the kids and romantic dinners with your spouse.
A divorce fair is right up our alley. Why not? Anytime the going gets tough, we get going!!!! We are so spoiled that a little turbulence in our marriages and parenting makes us assume that we are crashing, and we therefore jump out.
Here's a simple lesson in marriage and relationships (and even in life in general): hard times and struggles, whenever we make it to the end, draw a couple closer together, not farther. But first, we've got to grow up, stop acting like selfish children, and make it to the end.
As if a Divorce Fair wasn't enough, you can now get a divorce online! And this is in America! Now, you don't even need to leave the comfort of your own home to divorce your spouse. Imagine what a surprise that might be whenever one's spouse comes home and find that their marriage "partner" has been online printing off divorce papers!
Here again, we see the carelessness of marriage. We treat everything in our society as optional. Marriage is optional, commitment is option, work is optional (cause you can always get Uncle Sam to pay your bills), and parenting is optional. I'm waiting for Webster to remove "commitment" from his dictionary!
It's a crazy world we live in, and it will only get worse. Remember what the Bible says about depravity: man will do whatever it takes to live for himself and make sin legal, normal, common, and accepted. So we shouldn't be surprised by this trend, it will only get worse. Between the 7 year itch proposal, a divorce fair, and divorce online, it is hard to imagine how our society could get worse in this area. But never doubt human depravity. Where there's a will, there will be way. And our society is looking for a way out.
Orthodoxy has been thrown out the window postmodernity has replaced it. And look at where it is taking us!
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I have also reposted a blog I did years ago before I had a blog site. I put it on my Shortblog. Click here to read it.
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